So I found myself looking back to when I was a kid playing club soccer. For me or at least what I know the cheating seemed to creep into sports around age 10. AGE 10!
I am sure that everyone has their own stories, but kids were taught from a young age that this is ok. We had kids in club soccer with fake birth certificates, fake identification etc… Parents knew about it and condoned it but that is not even really my point here… let’s take a trip with these kids throughout their lives.
Taught at a young age in sports (which is just a game) that it is ok to cheat. WHy on earth would they not do the same when they run into some difficult times at school. Heaven forbid they perform to the level of their peers. They didn’t have to in sports and their parents said it was ok, so why shouldn’t they just cheat in school? After all it is just a little cheat sheet in their pocket.
How about when they get their first job at the grocery store, retail store, or wherver else is hiring these days. How often do you hear about kids stealing a t-shirt, or some miscelaneous items and the parents are confronted about it and are super embarrassed. Most of the time the kids that steal it don’t even need it when you look at their upbringing.
How about that kid that is being pushed through life by his family and goes off to college… Now they are on their own. Time to have fun, let loose, get wild… Uh oh, now they have to wake up for class and they forgot they had a test so what do they do? You… cheat.
How about that kid that is a phenom athlelte. He is playing division one collge sports… He has been told all his life that he/she is the best. Has a bunch of yes men/women around them so in their mind they can do no wrong. They are a bad ass athlete but now throughout their life they have found that they can cheat and gain just that little edge. Steroids??? HGH??? Or the newest one, deer antler spray….
Ok, now that we have covered a few scenarios, lets spell out what we have really done to this 10 year old kid that is now for shits and giggles lets say 25 years old. We have allowed this now adult to think that it is ok to cheat. We have had 13 year olds playing with 10 year olds in sports dominating. We have let them think in their head they are better than they are by playing with kids younger than them… This set the stage.
We have a kid going through school thinking it must be ok to cheat in school because “my parents allowed me to cheat in sports or atleast allowed my team to cheat and turned the other cheek, why wouldn’t it be ok in school too?” Seems like mixed signals from parents right??? Win by any means necessary right???
Really what we end up with is a 22,23,24,25 year old yound adult that has gone through life with a skewed sense of reality. Competition got the best of them. Life always seemed easier that it really was because they never had to work through adversity:
1. Sports… lets just play with kids that are younger so I seem like a bad ass
2. School… ehh, I dont need to learn this, I will take the short cut and make a cheat sheet
3. Work… Why be the best, no one will know. I will just cheat.
At age 25 we have to many kids that come to an epiphany that life is hard because we allowed them to cheat until now. Now the corporate world kicks them in the ass and I think this is a big reason to the ENTITLEMENT mentality that our world has today…
They say kids are impressionable so love them, nurture them, teach them. This is so true… make sure the example to cheat does not start at home!
(these were random thoughts today and I was in a hurry to get to Crossfit so sorry if the thoughts are a little scattered today 🙂 )